Becoming a Referral Superstar: Asking For Referrals So You Actually RECEIVE Referrals!! (Part 2 of 2)

by Sabrina Risley

Last month, I shared Part One on how to become a Referral Superstar, so you can build a referral network that actually delivers referrals. I shared WHY you want to use referrals to build your business, WHO your potential referral partners are, and asked you to be specific in WHAT you are looking for in a referral.

If you’ve completed your “homework,” you are now ready to move on.  If not, be sure to Read Part One first.  Referral Superstars, let’s talk about WHEN and HOW to ask for referrals.

W #4 = When

Once you know who to ask and you’ve identified what to specifically ask for, knowing when to ask is crucial. Asking a contact too soon can feel like asking someone to marry you on a first date.

It’s never too late to ask for referrals once you’ve:

  • Established rapport,
  • Formed a trusting relationship,
  • Ensured them you will take care any contacts they send your way.

A great time to ask for referrals is right after you’ve successfully completed work and you’ve delivered excellent customer service resulting in a very satisfied customer. This customer is in a state of gratitude and appreciation for the work you’ve completed for them and they are ready to share that experience with others. For example, as an insurance agent, you just wrote a new policy for a client and saved them $200 per year. This is the perfect time to ASK for a referral!

Within your network and circle of influence, when to ask can be a little tricky. As we’ve said before, asking too soon can be damaging to the relationship. Most people need to see or hear from you an average of 7 to 9 times before they feel confident and comfortable with you and your products or services. To speed up rapport building and trust, make a habit of reaching out to your contacts consistently. Create a plan of contact.

If in doubt, wait it out. Consider the number of quality “touches” you’ve made with this person, if it’s less than five, enlist a few more measures to ensure you are establishing rapport, trust, and confidence. Perhaps you can pick up the phone and ask what they most need right now, take them to coffee or have lunch after a networking event, or even send a referral or connection their way. Individuals with Bob Burg’s Go-Giver® mentality receive the most.

How:

Once you know who your referral sources are, you’ve identified what a good prospect looks like and you know when to ask, you are ready to actually ask for the referral. Asking for referrals can be intimidating, but if you’ve followed the instructions on when to ask, your request will be well-received.

Here is how to phrase the question.

  • Start by asking an open ended question. Instead of asking “Do you know anyone?” ask, “Who do you know?”
  • To increase your chance of receiving referrals, use the specifics about what your ideal referral looks like. The more general you are, the harder it is for people to recall someone in need of your service. However, if you ask for a specific referral like, “Who do you know that is currently looking to move out of state and sell their home?” people can more readily pinpoint who in their network fits into that specific scenario.

Here are a few more examples to consider:

Realtor: “Who do you know in your wine club that is getting ready to retire within the next two years?”

Marketing:  “Who do you know in Littelton that is struggling to build their business using online marketing strategies?”

Financial Planner: “Who do you know in the Denver metro area that is a higher level executive and recently switched companies?” (You see, they might need their 401k managed).

Here’s another example of how to ask for referrals.  In his book, Endless ReferralsBob Burg suggests, “Anne, I’m in the process of expanding my referral business, and I find it’s helpful to partner with my clients and friends such as you. Could we take a few quick minutes to run past the names of some people I might also be able to help?”

Practice asking for referrals and find the words that work for you. But simply asking for referrals sets you apart from 90% of the professionals within your industry.  All you need to do is follow the Why, Who, What, When and How, and you’ll soon become a Referral Superstar.

For related reading, see also our Janauary 2011 post, The Most Important Factor to Receiving Referrals = YOU!

(c) 2012 Behind The Moon, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

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Becoming a Referral Superstar: Asking For Referrals So You Actually RECEIVE Referrals!! (Part 1 of 2)

by Sabrina Risley

We all had grandiose visions of opening our business, kicking our feet up on the desk, and answering incoming calls and demands for our widgets.  Unfortunately, that’s not how it happens. However, when you become a Referral Superstar, your phone begins to ring and you soon get more qualified, ready-to-buy prospects knocking at your door.

If you haven’t already, I highly recommend reading two books pertaining to referrals: The Referral of a Lifetime by Tim Templeton and Endless Referrals by Bob Burg. I consistently use both as reference tools. What I learned from both books is that to become a Referral Superstar, first you need to know how to build a referral network so that you actually receive referrals. In this case, you need to answer Why, Who, What, and When so you can get to the HOW. 

W #1 = Why

You might be asking yourself, “If I do a good job, won’t I just GET referrals?” It’s possible, but by asking for referrals, you greatly increase the chances of receiving referrals, and you most certainly receive them more quickly. Asking for referrals isn’t selfish. It’s about giving and passing along valuable resources. People love to connect and they love to help. When they refer someone, they know they are being of service by making the connection. When you give people the opportunity to help, they will.

Additionally, referrals are the BEST source for new customers, as prospects are more likely to believe what others say about you than what you tell them about yourself. There is nothing more prized than having the opportunity to meet someone based on the strong recommendation from their friend or associate. Referrals come to you already trusting in who you are and what you offer. You are already on the pedestal, placed there by the referring party.  With each new referral turning into new business, it leads to more opportunity to grow and expand your network of referral based clients!

W #2 = Who

The Rule of 250 states that you have at least 250 contacts in your circle of influence.  It further states that each of your 250 contacts has a circle of influence of 250 as well.  Wow… that’s more than 62,000 people at your fingertips!!  Doesn’t it make sense then to say that your 250 contacts know people who need your products/service?

The first step is to explore your existing network to identify the best people from whom you can ask for referrals. These could include: satisfied current and previous customers; raving fans and champions; those with whom you have a trusted relationship; friends; family; contacts with whom you have sufficiently established a know, like, trust factor, or rapport and connection. When it comes to building a referral based business, your network is your lifeline.

W #3 = What

Once you identify who to ask, begin identifying exactly what you are asking for. What does a good referral look like?  Saying that “anyone and everyone is a good referral” ensures you’ll get referred to no one. It’s best to narrow down to specifics as it helps your contacts know who to refer to you. The more specific and focused you are, the more likely you are to get a referral.

Be specific and determine what you are asking from your referral source.

  • Geography: In which geographic area do you prefer to work? Even if you can work nationwide, it’s best to narrow the geographic region so you referral source can actually imagine prospects for you in that specific area. This doesn’t mean you won’t receive referrals or business outside that area. This is about narrowing the focus for your referral source.
  • Focus on a Product or Service: What is your core or primary focus of the products or services you offer? You can also view this from the perspective of offering the most well-received product/service available and lead with that. Again, narrowing the focus for your referral source.
  • Type of Client or Person: What are the specifics about your ideal client/referral? Are they in a specific age or income range? What type of person, or what situation or circumstances define the person who best fits the products or services for which you are seeking a referral? Are they retirees? Families with young children? Being specific here further helps in receiving referrals.

By following these first 3 W’s, you are well on your way to growing your business through referrals. Spend some time this month identifying your who (referral partners) and your what (specifics), so you are ready for part two of this article, which includes WHEN and HOW to ask for referrals.

“When we seek help, people are there to help.  But you have to take the first step and ask for it. ”
~ Angie Ridings

For related reading, see also our Janauary 2011 post, The Most Important Factor to Receiving Referrals = YOU!

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Adding Value: Does It Mean Giving Away My Stuff For FREE?

by Sabrina Risley

You may have a large network.  You may know a lot of people.  They may know a lot of people.  It seems that this alone would be the perfect formula for creating a networking goldmine, but as you may have noticed, a network alone won’t necessarily bring you endless referrals and a steady stream of new clients.  But there is one thing that will…

Adding VALUE and helping those within your network!

A concentration on adding value and service as an important facet of your business growth strategy will have a tremendous effect on what you attract.

So what does adding value and helping others really mean?  It’s like paying it forward.  It’s doing good for the sake of doing good, not for the sake of what you think you might receive in return.  It’s about serving without attachment to an outcome or expectation.  One of my favorite quotes from Bob Burg‘s Go-Givers Sell More reads “The task here is not to create value in order to create a sale or “in order to” anything.  It’s to create value, period.”

Adding value could look like any number of things:

  • Making a phone call instead of sending an email
  • Sending a handwritten note or thank you card
  • Remembering birthdays, anniversaries or other important dates
  • Making an introduction or connecting someone to another person of high-value to them
  • Recommending valuable resources and sharing information
  • Offering a free report, success tips, or valuable information that solves your target market’s problems
  • Following up with a client, contact or prospect to be sure they are satisfied
  • Thinking ahead to what your client might need, suggesting other products and services
  • Sending referrals
  • Saving a client money… and the list can go on and on.

Here are a few specific examples that might help you translate things for your own business:

  • A massage therapist or hair stylist might call their client a few days after delivering service to see how they are doing.
  • An insurance agent might call their client to let them know about new changes in their policy, how that will impact them, and offer suggestions.
  • Thinking outside the box… a professional on the networking circuit might focus on connecting at least two people from every event with someone who could be a good strategic alliance or power partner.
“The essence of the Go-Giver philosophy is this: the more you give, the more you have.”

With this quote in mind, you’ll notice what did not make my list of what adding value looks like…

  • Giving away your services and products for free
  • Discounting your services and products
  • Over-giving to a paying customer because they demand it

These are not examples of adding value.  In fact, much of the time, free or discounting decreases its perceived value. Think of what you treasure more… something for which you paid full price or the item you found on sale?  Well, happening upon a great sale can be exhilarating, however consider an article of clothing costing $100. When the item goes on sale for $50, doesn’t it make you wonder whether the item was ever worth the original $100?

To really be of service and to add value to your network and clients, your giving must contribute in some manner.  Here are a few questions to consider when determining how to add greater value in your business.

  • Is this something that will directly impact the other person?
  • Would this help them solve a problem or overcome an obstacle?
  • Could this support them in learning something new?
  • Am I giving this without being attached to getting something back in return? (giving from the heart versus giving to buy approval)
  • Can I freely give this, without it taking away from my energy, causing resentment, or it being a disservice to myself or other clients?

These are all for your consideration when looking for ways to add value.  Remember, it’s about being of service and giving, but it’s not about giving away your services and products for free, offering discounts, depleting your energy, and devaluing your time and worth.

Focus on adding value for others and you’ll soon see your business grow in value.

“Right now, your total job is to focus on one thing and one thing only; providing value to other people. If you do that well, sales – and money – will find you.” ~Go-Givers Sell More

(c) 2012 Behind The Moon, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

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Behind The Moon Launches Exclusive VIP Neworking Membership

by Sabrina Risley

Behind The Moon (BTM) just celebrated its 8th year in business last month!  This makes BTM one of the longest standing  private networking organizations in the Denver metro area!  We have welcomed more than 4,200 professionals to our networking events over the years, we have grown to hosting 13 networking events in and around the Denver metro area each month and we have more than 200 professional BTM members.

Our Participants Make The Difference:

We recognize that it is professionals like you, BTM members and non-members alike, who create the foundation for our success.  We have come  to be known as the networking destination where professionals actually see results from their networking efforts.  We attract highly professional, service-oriented individuals with a Go-Giver™ mentality, resulting in networking events filled with professionals who understand the power of connecting, networking, adding value, and forming strategic partnerships.

Here is some information you might not know about Behind The Moon:

BTM website has more than 6,500 visitors average per month which means a lot of eyeballs viewing our Member Directory.

√ BTM members receive a FREE, Customizable Profile Page in BTM’s Online Member Directory, visible to the public.  Search engines LOVE the Behind The Moon website!

Sabrina Risley and professional event hosts have more than 100,000 Social Media connections. This means our events and Member Directory get massive exposure.

√ BTM members build strong relationships, add value and help one another regularly.  We are always connecting people and we love it.

√ In Colorado, whether you are south in Parker or Castle Rock, north in Westminster or Arvada, or somewhere in between, we’ve got 13 monthly events, with one likely near you, allowing you to network right where you want to do business.

√ Our networking events are open to all and membership is never required.  However, when newcomers attend a BTM networking event, they want to join and take advantage of our exclusive Member Perks and become a part of the Behind The Moon professional network.

As BTM embarks on its 9th year in business, we are excited to announce that Behind The Moon is bringing a whole new level of networking to town!!  What if business owners could build relationships like CEOs of major corporations?  Top-notch professionals are continuously striking business deals while playing golf and attending dinner parties.  However, business owners and entrepreneurs don’t always have access to high-level relationship building and networking.

Behind The Moon is changing all that by introducing aits new and exclusive VIP Level Membership!

VIP membership means:

√ Interacting with those who are committed to investing in business growth

√ Developing strong business relationships that result in ongoing referrals

√ Rubbing elbows with top-notch professionals who take networking seriously

VIP Membership includes what is currently offered to existing Standard & Premium Members, plus:

√ Unlimited free admission to BTM networking events

√ Invitations to VIP Member Only events including mixers, golfing, dinner parties and more

√ Exclusive opportunity to sponsor or host BTM Member Mixers

√ Featured business listing at the top of your category in BTM’s Online Member Directory

√ A one-on-one coffee with Sabrina Risley, one of the most well-connected women in Denver and personal promotion by Sabrina Risley to her network of more than 10,000 connections via social media channels

Learn More more about Behind The Moon’s VIP, Premium and Standard level Memberships open to all professionals, without limitations by industry.

Regardless of whether a Behind The Moon membership is right for you, we invite you network with us anytime!  We love to meet new people and introduce them to our professional network.

Thank you for being a part of our community as we recognize that we are only as good as the professionals we attract.  We value your continued contribution and your commitment to supporting local businesses in our community.  The results we have witnessed throughout the past eight years have been astonishing.  We look forward to the future of Behind the Moon and to helping business owners “grow their business by helping others grow theirs!”

To become a BTM Member, click here  for instructions to create a new user account and submit an online application for Membership, or contact us.

(c) 2011 Behind The Moon, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

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The 7 Secrets to Soulful Marketing

By Andrea Costantine

Have you ever wondered how you could grow your business more authentically and with more soul?  Well, it’s time you found out.
(Following is an excerpt from the book Soulful Marketing: Heart Centered Marketing for Conscious Entrepreneurs,which is being GIVEN away for FREE through May 20, 2011. Grab your copy here http://bit.ly/soulmktg and read Sabrina’s chapter included in the book, Networking Is More Than A Numbers Game).

There are seven foundational essentials that are extremely important in order for the principles of Soulful Marketing to transform your business. These essentials include self-expression, a service mindset, heart based marketing, living your life purpose, having passion for your work, a desire to achieve big things – no regard for living a mediocre life – and a deep commitment to your success.

#1 Self-Expression

Self-expression is a pivotal part of having a thriving business.  There is no point in having a business that leaves you feeling drained, unappreciated, and lacks creativity. Self-expression comes in many forms and is unique to each individual. That in itself is the beauty of it. One person may feel fully self-expressed building websites all day, while another needs to paint, write, or speak. Self-expression is the core truth of who you are and what you stand for.  Knowing what you value and living these values in your daily life is the key to self-expression. A business that doesn’t allow you the room to create from the deepest levels of who you are will leave you feeling drained, burned out, and exhausted.

#2 Service Mindset

A service-mindset, which I will go into more detail about later, is the way to remove the neediness out of your business, take the selling out of your offer, and allow you to “serve” your soul-market. A service mindset eliminates the worry of whether or not a prospect will buy or take advantage of your products. It is also the secret behind creating magnetic energy that attracts clients to you – effortlessly.

#3 Heart Based Marketing

Heart based-marketing is about tapping into the core of who your soul-clients are, figuring out what problems you can solve for them, what you do to bring value to their lives and then speaking and marketing to them in a way that shows you are the solution to their challenges. This is marketing without fear. You do not need to use the typical fear style marketing that many businesses use in the world today. Instead, you can reach people at a soul level in order to inspire them to purposeful action.

#4 An Expression of Your Purpose

Your business must be an expression of your life purpose. Having a business solely to make money without regard for the product or services that you are offering, cannot work under the Soulful Marketing paradigm.  Each person’s life purpose is defined differently, and if you are unsure of whether or not you are living your life purpose, I highly suggest you take advantage of the many ways in which you can discover this powerful life changing information.

Without knowing your true life purpose, it’s all too easy to flounder in your business and wane back and forth on the direction you would like to go. Knowing your life’s purpose will help you move forward faster and with more confidence. I must admit when I first discovered these things about myself, I realized it was my right and responsibility to fulfill my divine destiny. It adds clarity to your business – even if you aren’t sure of “how” you will live it after you have “discovered yourself.”

#5 Passion

Passion and purpose tie in together. Without one you cannot have the other. Sadly, there are times when I come across someone who has lost their passion for their work. Passion is required for your business; otherwise, it’s all too easy not to send out that marketing email, not to make that phone call, to hide behind administrative work, and not to put yourself out there. Passion is the key that drives you. If you can keep your passion high and practice proper self-care to illuminate your soul, you can make it through the difficult times and overcome adversity and fears that are a natural part of being an entrepreneur.

#6 Strong Desire to Live Big

Those who implement Soulful Marketing must have a strong desire to do big things with their life and business and refuse to settle with living a mediocre life. I am serious when I say that if you are okay with living a mediocre life then this is not the book and way for you. It’s not that there’s anything wrong with mediocrity – in fact, some days I crave it – but in general, if you aren’t committed to playing out fully in your life and achieving the biggest possible vision for yourself – finding success as a soulful entrepreneur will be almost impossible.

#7 Commitment

Lastly, you need a deep commitment to your work. Without this commitment it is impossible to achieve your aspirations as there will be days, moments, or even weeks when the going will get tough. It is only with commitment that you can fight back and resist the urge to walk out on your dreams.

            When it comes to implementing the work presented in this book, it is critical that you assess whether your business meets these seven essential foundations of Soulful Marketing. If you find that you are lacking in even one area, seek out support to bridge the gap. It’s only when all seven of these principles are in action that you will prosper and your business will grow.

Be sure to download the FREE ebook of Soulful Marketing: Heart Centered Marketing from Conscious Entrepreneurs at http://bit.ly/soulmktg   – only available until midnight 5/20.11.

Andrea Costantine is the co-creator of Speaking Your Truth: Courageous Stories from Inspiring Women and How to Bring Your Book to Life This Year: An Exploratory Guidebook on Writing and Self-Publishing. Andrea is passionate about service, self-expression, and creativity and enjoys unleashing that spirit in others. Andrea is a professional freelance writer, author, speaker, and artist. She resides in Denver, CO. www.andreacostantine.com.

(c) 2011 Behind The Moon, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

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No Brown Cows in This Pasture!

by Sabrina Risley

What do companies like Starbucks, JetBlue, KrispyKreme and Apple all have in common?  They are Purple Cows.  They are the trailblazers in their industry, pioneering their new and innovative product(s) or approach.  In his book Purple Cow: Transform Your Business By Being Remarkable, marketing guru and best-selling author, Seth Godin argues that no matter how many marketing dollars you throw at your business, it is wasteful spending if your company isn’t unique, memorable, worth talking about, phenomenal, or just down-right remarkable in the first place.  Be the purple cow amidst a field of brown cows or risk being ordinary, invisible and left behind. 

So where do you start as you embark on this idea of “reinventing” your business and becoming a purple cow?  First, I highly recommend you read the book Purple Cow.  It’s an easy and entertaining read, with practical examples and stories.  In the meantime, start with these 3 considerations, loaded with questions to get you thinking.

Go From Good to Remarkable.  These days, even being “very good,” is ordinary.  What would it take to turn your very good widget into an extraordinary widget?  What can you do to trigger a bit of controversy or teeter on the edge of outrageous?  What can you do to increase your “gossipability” factor?  Push the limits to make your widget the tallest or shortest, the biggest or smallest, the most expensive or the most affordable.

Reflect on Suggestions, Recommendations and Complaints.  When someone provides you with a suggestion, if your inclination is to brush it off, then STOP… that is the very suggestion to which you need to pay the most attention.  An outside perspective might be just what you need to go from very good to remarkable.  What are some of the recommendations you’ve rejected as too far-fetched?   Fetch them for reconsideration.  Is there a gap you can fill between what consumers are receiving as compared to what they really want?  What would make their life easier?  What is missing from what your widget provides today?   What can you add (or take away) that would cause your raving fans to boast even more?  What can be done to address complaints you’ve received?  Consider the one risky suggestion you could implement that would yield a better widget.

Dare to Compare.  In order to stand out from the crowded marketplace, you need to deviate from the norm.   What is your competition doing and can you do the opposite?  What would you change about what market leaders are doing to make your widget more remarkable?   Is there a different niche or target market you can serve?  Think about noteworthy widgets in your market.  What can you do to take it to the next, or at least a different level?

With competition fierce and more companies than you care to think about vying for consumer spending dollars, you really need set yourself apart.  Following the mold that  everyone else is “doing it this way” or that you have always “done it this way” is not going to increase your “gossipability” factor.  Be that purple cow in the pasture with the ordinary brown cows and stand out as something worth talking about.

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Building Your Network Through Gravitational Pull

By Andrea Costantine

Have you ever felt that building your network is a struggle and takes a lot of energy and hard work?  Well, it’s quite possible that you’ve been using shear force, pushing, and paddling upstream.  This is the exact opposite of building your network through gravitational pull which is all about serving and taking a genuine interest in others, rather than “convincing” them about your greatness.

Bob Burg, author of Endless Referrals, The Go-Giver and Go-Givers Sell More explains the difference between pushing vs pulling like this: “pushing is telling people what you want; pulling is finding out what they want. “ Pushing on people doesn’t move them closer to you. As Burg writes, “…ask them about themselves, find out what their interests are, put their interests ahead of your own, and you can “pull” people from vast distances. The influence created by pushing does not carry far. The influence created through pulling is limitless.”

Push strategies are me-centered, when you are talking, selling and thinking of your own interests and agenda. Pull strategies take the focus off of you and your sales and include genuinely taking an interest in others, connecting people to leads and resources, building relationships and giving in ways that meet the needs of others.

Burg also writes “The secret to developing a vast and thriving sales business is the impact you have on the people you have not yet met.” Think of the times when someone knows of you before you’ve even met them. This is your influence preceding you. So consider how you can impact, influence and grow your network using “pull” strategies. Be the person who genuinely helps and gives to others and you will find that people naturally gravitate towards you and the opportunities you have to draw great people into your network multiply significantly.

Now let’s consider how to incorporate pull strategies into your networking. To some, networking is a disguised version of “tit for tat” as Burg writes. In a dog-eat-dog world, it’s all too easy to consider “what have you done for me lately?”  Doing good deeds and being a Go-Giver isn’t about keeping score. Recognize that when you give and do for others, the returns may not come back directly from the people you serve. You will receive gifts back in a variety of ways… an old client hiring you back for an upcoming project, new business coming from the referral of a raving fan, a lead coming from a “competitor” with whom you’ve developed a respectful relationship.

Have a positive influence on others and make networking about giving and serving others. Being a Go-Giver is about doing things for others, taking a genuine interest in them, and ultimately serving the best interest of those around you. Whether you see a direct return from a particular person or not, it simply doesn’t matter, because the truth is that Go-Givers do indeed sell more.

To expand your influence and achieve the success you desire , join national best-selling author, Bob Burg and Behind The Moon live on April 8, 2011 in the Denver Tech Center for Influence & Success: The Go-Giver Way.  More Information.

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Andrea Costantine is a writer, speaker, and wanna-be artist, focusing on the good things in life.  She is a perpetual optimist, lover of nature, yoga, travel, and new experiences.  Learn more about Andrea at www.andreacostantine.com.

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